Be confident! If you don’t believe, no one else will

In some of my previous posts I stated the importance of never giving up on your dreams and I talked about some strategies to make room for your passion in everyday life. But lately I realized that I forgot something essential.

Before deciding not to give up, before planning how to accomplish your goals, before all of this there’s something truly important you need to do or all the rest will be useless.

The first thing to do is to believe in yourself. Think about your goal, your objective, and say it out loud. Not only to yourself but to others too. I’m not saying you have to gather your family and do some kind of outing, just start talking about your dream.

I bet this suggestion made you cringe. I bet you are reluctant because of fear, because you are afraid that people would laugh at you. And I can bet on this because I’ve been there too.

I won’t lie, some people may actually laugh at your efforts (usually out of envy), but many many other won’t. Sometimes, after saying out loud what you want to do, what you want to be, you may meet a few seconds of silence but don’t mistake it for disapproval, often it’s just awe.

Yes, awe!

Because people who pursue their dreams are brave and inspire awe.

When you start talking, after a while, something happens. People start treating your dream with respect, because you believe in it and it’s clearly important to you. People begin to understand.

You don’t believe me?

Let me tell you what happened to me.

I’ve been writing for all of my life, since I was a child. At first it was just a game, something I did for fun, and my parents considered it like that: a game. After a few years though I would have liked to take it more seriously and attend a writing school but I so lacked in confidence that I never had the courage to ask for it. My passion for writing was still considered a game. The writing school I dreamt about costed a lot of money and I didn’t feel good enough to even try to send my application. I didn’t believe in myself, why should have my parents?

So I was talked into a more pragmatic path, I decided to follow my second-best passion and matriculated at University to study chemistry. I left writing aside for a very long time and I only picked up my pen again when I started feeling something wrong inside me. The absence of writing from my life was slowly killing the creative side of my brain.

This time I was confident. I had tried to live without writing and failed. Now it was my chance to live with writing and made it work. I started talking about my blog with family and friends, I found the courage to show them my first short stories, I started talking about writing novels and try to have them published.

And guess what? After a while the skeptical look in theri eyes disappeared, they started seeing how important writing was to me and began to understand how much I believe in it.

Now I discuss plots and characters with them, they are my first beta readers, my mother encouraged me to accept my first translation of a short story as a way to better understand this world, and my boyfriend, who loves to travel, is organizing a summer trip that will give me also some time to write.

But the most important thing is that when I exclaim in exasperation “I have to write! I’m behind my schedule!”, they don’t roll their eyes anymore. In fact they help me find the time. And that feels incredibly good.

So what are you waiting for? If you don’t believe in your dream yourself, no one else will. But if you do… who can say what can happen?

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